Don't Worry, Be Happy?

Very often we hear this phrase, “Don’t worry and be happy”
But how often do we follow this when we are in the situation?
Well over the past couple of years, I’ve noticed and met many people including myself who were facing with problems, worries and troubles. All I kept telling them and telling myself was, “Don’t worry Be Happy. This too shall pass.”
However as I was away for the holidays and had time to think about this, I realised that this isn’t the best advice for every situation.
Many a time in life we are faced with issues like financial issues and debts, health issues, unhappiness in a relationship, or a marriage, a job that isn’t right for us and I realised that in these situations, we can’t just choose to be happy assuming it’s all going to pass.
Instead, we should look into the matter and fix these holes before it gets bigger and deeper.
You can save your health, your financial state, your marriage or relationship, etc only if you choose to spend some time thinking how to fix it.
Usually, as humans we choose to worry, not realising that worrying brings no positive results as we’re just scaring a wound deeper by putting more negative energy in us, making us weak.
I then recalled what a good friend of mine once told me to do. To differentiate the problems I was facing and categorized them to what’s fixable and what was in my control, and what wasn’t. Then, I focused on the issues that was in my control, and addressed it with a clear focused mind and gave my full attention and effort to fix it. And it worked.
Even if it’s 50% that you’re in control, and you give all your best, you’ve practically won half the battle.
So if you’re facing a problem that was in your control. Take the time to clear your mind and think how you can face the issue in the most strategic way. If there is a risk that you feel it’s worth taking do damage control, do it before it’s too late.
Nothing is out of our reach, sometimes, it could be fate, and sometimes we rely on The Almighty God, however my parents always quoted the quote by Benjamin Franklin that, “God helps those who helps themselves”. And I guess it makes a lot of sense now to what she meant.
This reminds me of a good story I read somewhere, sometime ago which I’d like to share.
It’s about a man who kept praying every day to win the lottery as he really needed the cash for a lot of financial issues. Until he dies, he didn’t and when he went up to heaven, he asked God, “Why didn’t you let me win the lottery when I kept praying to your everyday to win the lottery, knowing how much problems I was having?” God answered, “My Child, if only you bought a lottery ticket”.
That was pretty inspirational to me.
Anyways this is just my take on this. Think about it :)

Kapila Khindriya