Fear of the Unknown

"Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood" - Marie Curie

Fear is something that lies within each and every one of us. It’s the reason why most of us are so dependent, so afraid or so uptight in our ways and don’t believe in taking risk.
One thing we fail to realize is, from the day we were born, we have been taking risks.
Without realizing, every single step is a risk.

The risk we take and don’t realize usually are the ones that have a minimal impact to our lives therefor we take it. However the rest, we choose to fear it and not face it as we feel there either could be a big risk involved or simply because we it is unknown to us.

Why is it we have fears?
A friend once told me that, we fear because we are uncertain of the end result or what comes after.

When I thought deeper on that , I started realizing. Why do we fear ghost? It’s because we haven’t seen them.
Why do we fear death? It’s because we haven’t faced it. Why do we fear losing someone special? It’s because we are unaware of how live would be without them.
And the list can go on…

Fear is a constant feeling everyone feels. Even the strongest man on earth does fear something in life.

Why is it we should try to get rid of fear? Fear usually leads to anxiety and worry. Worrying takes up a lot of energy, making one weaker by the day.
And when one is to face the situation, because of all the energy being drained out worrying, one tends to break easily.

It’s best to save the energy and face the situation strongly than fear the end result, worry and go nowhere from it.

How do you take away the feeling of fear?
To me I feel there is many ways of reducing the fear in us. It depends on the situation we are facing to practice them.
One of the ways I try to practice is, by choosing to face it bravely, but knowing and understanding all about something beforehand, to be to handle the situation whichever way it falls to.
The other way is to be less attached to the situations, or people and things.
It that way, we would neither be happy or sad if things didn’t come as we planned or hoped.

Sometimes we fail to realize, nothing is certain and things can happen differently. Being so attached to it, we fear the end result.
However, if we are not so attached to it, we will be less affected to it. And it might just be a pleasant surprise.

What is the worst that can happen anyways?
No challenge is thrown to us, that we can’t handle or face.
It will only makes us stronger if we let it take its course.

Well, these are just my thoughts.

“Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop”

Kapila Khindriya

Prisoners of Life

Kapila Khindriya

Most of us are so involved in making a living, that very often we fail to live it.

We journey through life with strained eyes so fixed upon the distant goal, that we tend to lose sight of the beauty and care and love that enriches our lives.

Is this because we have high goals that are hard to achieve? Is it wrong to have goals and focus on them? Is it necessary for us to sacrifice time with our loved ones and not have time for a holiday and not focus on ourselves, our development and our health for this success?

I feel it’s simply a choice. The choice on how we choose to live it.

Sacrifices are made by those who can’t see their goals clearly or for those who aren’t sure how to achieve their goals or probably those who aren’t sure what they really want.

Why is it that some people can achieve their goals without major sacrifices? Is it because they chooses to see the journey of success knowing exactly what they want to achieve and how they choose to embark that journey.

As an example, look at life through a binoculars. There are two openings to a binoculars.

To me I feel, an optimist will choose to look at it from the right side, where they’d be able to see how clear their journey is, how much time they have, looking at it from a broad perspective and the big picture , and how to manage it well with the least complains. However, a pessimist would choose to look from the other end, seeing how narrow the journey is, always looking at a small picture, and how little time they have, how they have to cut their way through the challenges, and all the things they need to sacrifice in order to achieve that success as they complain each step of the way.

Great goals and dreams should consist of SMART ones. One that is specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and has a logical time, that after achieving that, one proceed to another goal.
This will then enable one to not just be successful in achieving ones dreams, but to enjoy the beauty as one goes through that path.

What is the point of trying to make a living and trying to achieve goals in life , if one has neglected time with loved ones, not developed oneself, or character, nor looked after one’s health and one’s affectionate side?

Ask yourself…Is it worth it in the end ?

Start Living Life and NOT just Make a Living off Life

Mental Poison

Kapila Khindriya

Most parents tend to protect their children by keeping them away from sharp objects, fire, hot appliances, etc. From a young age, we are thought to keep a distance from strangers for our safety and to look left and right as we cross the road to prevent an accident. All this was done, to protect them from physical harm.

While keeping poisonous drugs and chemicals out of their children’s reach, what most parents fail to do is to prevent their little lives and teach them how to avoid from being poisoned with the most poisonous drug of all, called the ‘Mental Poison’. Not aware that this poison surrounds us all and tends to hurts, harm, scar and cripple one, in a deeper way than one may think.

What is Mental Poison ? It is deadly, destructive thoughts, moods, emotions and negative vibes.

Emotions, moods and thoughts play a very important part in one’s life. One may survive in this world with a burnt finger or a broken leg, but not with a mind that has been poisoned with negativity.
A negative mind could result in one having low self-esteem, depressed, fear, distrust or a mind that has be poisoned with guilt, negativity, that will only tend to destruct oneself.

With negative energies around, brings out negative emotions. And if one is not aware of how to refrain from being affected by it, it will make one a pessimist.

Being a pessimist, one tend to look at everything in life as bad as it could possibly be. And this brings out constant complains, dissatisfaction, unhappiness and these are all the true natural ingredients to ruins one’s health and life.

Therefore, a positive mind, gives one positive energy, with that, it keeps one healthy, both physically and mentally, and with that gives one true happiness in life.

Death

by Kapila Khindriya

Death is something that we need not fear as it’s bound to happen. From the day we are born, we are destined to die.

It’s how we choose to live it, who’s lives we choose to touch and how we choose to end it.

Sometimes we don’t show enough appreciation to someone when it’s deserved or we say harsh things to someone at work or at home. Thinking that we’ll have tomorrow to say it or to make things right. Who knows if there is a tomorrow in store for them or for us ?

Some people say that flashes of life and things we say and do come before us as we take our last breath. Wouldn’t we want it to be with no regrets?

Who knows if we ever do get a chance to tell someone how much they truly mean to us. Who knows if we postpone a catch up with someone, we’d still have that time in the future with them?

Three weeks ago I got a call from an good friend that I had not heard from for the past 4 years. He was away working in Singapore and had recently got back as he just got a job in KL. He called up and we had a short chat and discussed to meet sometime soon. Days passed and weeks passed and well, we didn’t get the chance to meet.

Then last week I got a call that stated he had met in an accident and passed on.

I couldn’t believe it, and could accept it as I had just spoken to him 2 weeks prior to that but never got that chance to meet up.

The feeling of loss was dearly felt and it thought me that as much as I thought I don’t take things for granted. In a way without me realizing, I did.

And although we know death comes to anyone and anytime, I always felt that those who left me were mainly those who passed on due to old age. Never really expected a young person, my friend to go.

With our lives being busy, sometimes we fail to realize that nothing is permanent. We tend to take people, especially the ones closest to us for granted.

Be it our parents, our children, our siblings, our colleagues, our friends, relatives etc.

Let the last things we say to someone be the things we are willing to live with if that's happens to be the last word we ever get to say to them.

What do we lose by that?

To all my family ,friends, and colleagues, out there, I just want to say that, you have indeed touched my life one way or another and made me who I am today. Thank you for being you & I love you!